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"The good news is that beneath this wilderness is the creative Spirit of God beckoning us toward transformation." Kathy Milans encourages us to stay the course and walk through the wilderness with Christ, trading the discomfort for transformation.

The marriage relationship between a man and a woman is a reflection of a deeper and more profound mystery: the unity of Christ and the church. According to Paul, this unity is for the purpose of Christ making His church holy (cf. Ephesians 5:27). If marriage is to reflect this dynamic between the Lord and the church, we have to conclude that holiness is also an integral part of the purpose of God’s presence and work in the marriage relationship.

It all was so seductive. Wasn't I loving others by helping them? Didn't they really need my help? Isn't it selfish to put my eyes on life? Satan knew just how to trap me in this game. Kathy Milans shares her journey toward healthy boundaries.

My time here has involved instructing pastors and lay people interested in counseling on a variety of topics, everything from secular counseling theories to mood disorders to the connection between counseling and healing. As part of my teaching times, I open with a short devotional focused on a particular passage from the Bible.

Is Jesus saying that the Pharisees are actually “holier than thou,” in need of less forgiveness, and therefore less able to love him? I don’t think so! But their thinking so might be their most self-destructive transgression! Rather, it seems Jesus is exposing their reality. I believe he’s calling them out by saying, “just look at this woman’s beautiful vulnerability with me…you can have this life-giving intimacy, too…come out from behind your protective religious coverings!”

Resistance. [...] Maybe it’s the addict who has been court-ordered to participate in therapy, the teenager whose parents are “forcing” him to talk with a counselor, or the child who is reluctant to process her past trauma. Knowing how to respond effectively to resistance can mean the difference between a positive treatment experience and the helping relationship being left more bruised and battered than the desk in my office.

Those of us in the helping professions are prime candidates for having compassion fatigue run us right over and we never even see it coming. Let's take care of ourselves so we can be there for others.

Will you sit with the helpless ones and hear their cries even if you are powerless to break through the walls that bind them? Will you sit and ache with them so they don’t suffer alone? Will you honor the cries that no one else hears and give validity to their pain? Will you face death with a tenacious hope that resurrection is always possible?

I needed the one thing I did not have: space to respond to anxiety. Space to make order of the chaos. Space to rest in the midst of panic and fear. Space to see and hear what was pure and true about my life, about me. Space to know that the ground Jesus and I had walked once before was not lost. I was not anxious Ellen exposed for her true self. I was Ellen in a state of anxiety. My old victories were not undone. A new victory was mine just ahead.

Today's Soul Care post is a grace-filled story of hope from Ellen Martin. Read as she shares her struggle with anxiety and the triumphant victory of Christ over a longing, trembling heart.

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