Golden retriever dog lying in front door of house, looking away (focus on foreground)

We did this small group after a message on loyalty.  If you want to see what we said in the talk, you can download the PDF of the talk outline here.


  •  A friend sticks closer than a brother – true?  Why or why not?
  •  Do you think loyalty is possible in our world today?
  •  What do you think most people would say they are loyal to?
  •  How important is loyalty to you?

In your family?  In your friendships?   At your job – or on your team?  To your school?

  •  Do you give loyalty – or is it earned?
  •  Do you give friendship – or is it earned?
  •  How can someone prove their loyalty?
  •  Can you be loyal to someone that isn’t loyal to you?
  •  Do you think your leaders are loyal?  What does that mean to you?

Who are you loyal to?

Ruth said to Naomi, ““Don’t force me to leave you; don’t make me go home. Where you go, I go; and where you live, I’ll live. Your people are my people, your God is my god; where you die, I’ll die, and that’s where I’ll be buried, so help me God—not even death itself is going to come between us!”

  •  Who fits this statement in your life – who are you loyal to no matter what?

If there is no one – how do you find that person?

  •  Loyalty begins in us – are we loyal?

What kind of friend are you – really?

       Are you Reliable?  Trusted?  Believed?

There are so many verses that speak to loyalty and friendship.  Here are a few:

Ruth 1:16-17 (our Scripture for today)
Proverbs 17:17
Proverbs 18:24
1 Corinthians 16:13-14
Matthew 26:35
Hebrews 10:23-24

So…what are you (we) going to do about it?


When he is not playing with his four children with his wonderful wife, Jeremy oversees children, youth, and college ministries in addition to leading the evening worship service at Christ United Methodist Church in Mobile, Al. He is passionate about reaching people with the message of Jesus in a way that engages them with the movement of God. Jeremy is the Senior Editor of the Seedbed Youth Ministry Collective and the author of Reclaiming the Lost Soul of Youth Ministry. You can find a list of all his books, articles and resources for churches at his website: JeremyWords.com


  1. The link for the talk outline is broken. is there any way to access that? I am teaching this lesson this week. I will have no problem coming up with my own outline but it wouldn’t hurt to have Jeremy’s original content.