#GrowWise. The 7 Things Every Daughter Must Know About Herself

January 31, 2015

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Proverbs 31:29  (read the whole chapter)

“Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”



To My Daughters,

There are some things I want you to know about yourselves, and I want you to know them so deeply that they become you. These are not sentimental feelings but solid facts. They are the bedrock truths of who you are and who you are becoming.

Let’s begin with a hard truth, one that may first offend but later will relieve.

You are weak.

This is not the weakness of some far fetched notion of your being inferior to men. No, this is the weakness common to the human race. Until this truth can be whole-heartedly embraced it will never be overcome. In fact, to the extent you deny this truth, you will spend all of your strength trying to disprove it, and in the process you will deny your true self and become someone completely other than who you most truly are.

In fact, the greatest sign of a resisted weakness is the way a person’s life ironically screams, “I am insecure!” through their endless efforts to prove they are strong. And the greatest sign of true strength is the way a person’s life quietly declares, “I am loved,” precisely because of and in the midst of their weakness. It’s why Jesus said, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.” And that brings me to the second thing I want you to know. In the midst of your weakness. . . .

You are loved.

Insanely loved. You are the beloved daughter of a Perfect Father, and I’m not talking about myself being perfect, though I love you profoundly. I’m talking about God. He adores you, period; not because of who you are, though he loves who you are. He loves you because of who He is. And through his love for you, he is teaching you to love others as he loves; not because of who they are but because of who you are. I want you to know that because you are loved. . . .

You are strong.

Yes, I know. I said you were weak, and you are, but because you know you are weak and yet unwaveringly loved you possess an unshakable strength. It’s unshakable because it is not rooted in power but in love and not in your ability to love but in your capacity to be loved. Yes, your growing capacity to be loved, which comes from accepting your love-ability, is what makes you strong. I want you to know that because you are strong in this unshakable way. . . . .

You are beautiful.

Radiantly, ravishingly beautiful. This beauty of yours, far from some cosmetic illusion, comes from a place so deep in your soul it can only be known by the One who abides there, the One who first made you and who is ever making you new, Jesus. Seeing you brings gladness to people because they are invited to see past the glamour of your appearance straight into the glory of God shining in your soul. I want you to know that because you know that your beauty comes from beyond you. . . .

You are humble.

This humility of yours grants you a greatness visible to others yet hidden from yourself. This greatness finds its deepest source not in appearances of grandeur but in the hidden goodness of a holy generosity. It’s this kind of humble greatness that inspires others to discard their grandiosity and discover their deeper goodness. I want you to know that because your greatness is bound up in the humility of your ordinary humanity  . . . .

You are courageous.

You are becoming a woman of valor. Eshet Chayil! Your courage gives others the ability to believe the impossible because it comes not from a projected strength but from the deep wisdom of an embraced weakness. Because this wisdom of weakness finds its strength in the foolishness of the Cross, your confidence finds its source in God. Your courage comes not from the will of self confidence but from the well of being strong in the Lord and in the power of his Spirit. Others trust you because you trust God. I want you to know that others have confidence in your courage because it is anchored in your confidence in God, and because your courage is tempered by respect and restraint . . . .

You are noble.

Because you are human, you are weak, and because you are weak, you are loved, and because you are loved, you are strong, and because you are strong, you are beautiful, and because you are beautiful, you are humble, and because you are humble, you are courageous, and because you are courageous you are noble. All of this is your wisdom. 

The wisdom writer said it best,

“Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”


I’ll see you tomorrow at Basecamp.

Repeating the P.S. from yesterday—  Some are asking where we are headed in February. Here’s the plan. We are going to climb one of the great mountains of the Bible together. In the Gospels, following Jesus birth, we follow and fix our eyes on Jesus as he preaches, teaches and heals. There are a series of mysterious manifestations of his goodness and glory and they culminate on the top of a Mountain. It has come to be called the “Mount of Transfiguration.” I call it “Transfiguration Mountain.” After this comes the great descent all the way down to the Cross. For the first seventeen days of February, Jesus being our guide, we are gong to make our way up “Transfiguration Mountain.” February 18 is Ash Wednesday which opens the door to our Lenten journey to the Cross. More on that to come. For now, get your hiking boots ready. And it would honor our work if you would consider inviting a friend to join us.

J.D. Walt writes daily for Seedbed’s Daily Text. He serves as Seedbed’s Sower in Chief. Follow him @jdwalt on Twitter or email him at jd.walt@seedbed.com.

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3 Responses

  1. Perfect timing! We are having a Father (Father-figure)-Daughter dance next Friday. These truths encompass the message our girls will hear.