Building a Theology of Celibacy and Friendship for the Church

Building a Theology of Celibacy and Friendship for the Church

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Video Presentation Outline

I. Introduction
II. Singleness and Celibacy in the Old Testament
III. Building Block 5: Singleness as the Undivided Life (read more here)
IV. Singleness Embodies Union with God
V. Same-Sex Friendship and Community in the Church
VI. Seedbed Band Meetings

Discussion Guide

Discuss any major takeaways or memorable moments from this teaching session. Did you learn anything new? Was anything particularly challenging? How would you summarize this presentation to a non-Christian friend?

1. Biblical Foundations
Jesus replied, “Are you not in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God? When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” (Mark 12:24–25)

How does Jesus’ statement about the afterlife make you feel? Does it surprise you? Are you indifferent to it? How do you reconcile this statement with the gift of family for fulfilling our Christian vocation?

2. Theological Foundations
I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. (1 Cor. 7:7–8)

Much is made of how family, marriage, and children reflect the divine love between the persons of the Trinity, and between Jesus Christ and his church—and rightly so. What do you make of celibacy as an additional symbol of undivided love for God? How can celibate people uniquely embody and witness to God’s covenant love? Consider how they point to the future reality remarked on in Mark 12.

3. Practical Implications
“Though challenged, though injured, though tossed into the flames, though nailed to a cross, a friend loves always.” (Aelred of Rievaulx, Spiritual Friendship)

On a scale of 1–10, how would you rate your appreciation for the importance of same-sex friendship? Do you have friends of the same sex who know you intimately and authentically, who speak both encouragement and accountability into your life? What steps could you take to pursue this kind of spiritual friendship, and what criteria would you use in moving toward an individual or group in this manner?

“As soon as we are fully conscious we discover loneliness. We need others physically, emotionally, intellectually; we need them if we are to know anything, even ourselves.” (C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves)

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