Free People Free up Other People

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Over the summer we put a “Gaga Pit” into our back yard in the youth ministry area.  Last night after an outreach event, there were still about 10 students out back playing ball.  I decided to go outside and watch them in action as they played.  Instead of getting a welcoming greeting from my students, I received three of them darting towards me pointing at the other students saying, “She called me a spoiled brat, but she is a spoiled brat for calling me one!”

As you can imagine, the mama bear in me rose up and informed everyone that we do not call people names.  After handling the situation and the students went home, I was cleaning up contemplating, “Where did they get the ok to call each other that?  Have I not hounded in enough that people in our youth group are known and loved by God and others?”

Some might say the problem is in the upbringing or teenage hormones, and there may be some truth in that. Of course, there are also choices that are made. However, people follow the leader, including youth. When there is a problem that arises in the student ministry that I lead, I am often brought back to the question of what am I reproducing out to these students.  I can only give them what I have, and it will be reflected in the way they live. You can only lead and free people from the sin which so easily entangles us to the measure in which you are free!  Free people free up other people. Just like in Galatians 5 where it goes through the works of the flesh and the fruit of the Spirit.  Is my fruit good or bad?

I firmly believe that we all need little heart checks and soul care.  It doesn’t really matter if you are in ministry or not, we need this if we are to fulfill the great commission of making disciples of any kind!

Here are some questions that I would encourage you to ask yourself frequently to keep your soul cared for and you to walk in freedom!

1-      Is there anyone I need to forgive?

2-      Are there any lies I am believing about myself?

3-      Do I have any open doors of works the flesh?


Caroline has served in student ministry for almost 10 years, and is currently the Youth and Young Adult Minister at Destin United Methodist Church in Destin, FL and co-founder of WAVES Girls Event, a conference for girls ages 14-24. Getting a call into youth ministry at age 16 in Nashville, TN led to Caroline getting a degree in Youth and Family Ministry and a certificate through PREPARE/ENRICH for Premarital Counseling at Abilene Christian University in 2009. She got her start in full time student ministry at Highland Park United Methodist Church in Dallas, TX. Caroline loves to encourage students in their faith, and see them be lights in their community. Some things Caroline enjoys is time on the beach, reading, sushi, coffee, traveling and time with her friends and family. You can follower her on her blog, called “Big Hare & Big Faith,”, or on Instagram and Twitter: @CarolineHare